Proud to See Malaysia in the Global Spotlight

As a Malaysian, seeing the video of former U.S. President Donald Trump dancing to local music during his visit to Malaysia truly filled me with pride. The clip, which went viral across multiple social media platforms with nearly 38 million views, did more than just entertain — it showcased Malaysia’s warmth, hospitality, and vibrant culture to the world.

So often, global headlines about Malaysia focus on politics or economics, but this moment was different. Here, we saw an American president — one of the most powerful figures in the world — genuinely engaging with our culture. The fact that he smiled, danced, and interacted warmly with the people around him sent a strong message: Malaysia is a nation that welcomes everyone with open arms. It reminded me of the essence of our national spirit — unity in diversity.

I believe the reason this video gained so much attention wasn’t just because of Trump himself, but because of what it represented. It showed a rare side of diplomacy — where music and culture break down barriers that politics often build. Watching Trump sway to our local rhythm symbolized mutual respect and cultural connection. It showed that Malaysia isn’t just another stop on a political tour, but a country with heart, energy, and a sense of joy that’s contagious.

As a Malaysian, I also felt proud that our local traditions and hospitality were seen by millions around the world. The smiles, the dance, and the lively music represented who we are as a people — friendly, welcoming, and proud of our identity. The world saw that Malaysia is not a “third world” country, but a nation with class, culture, and confidence.

The global reaction to the video also made me realize something important — people everywhere appreciate authenticity. When world leaders take a moment to enjoy and respect local traditions, it builds goodwill and lasting impressions. Malaysia’s image on the international stage became brighter, not through politics or speeches, but through something simple: a dance.

In the end, that viral clip wasn’t just about Trump. It was about us — Malaysians — showing the world that our culture can unite, our warmth can inspire, and our country is one that others will always remember fondly. Watching that video made me proud to say, “Yes, that’s my Malaysia.”

"EVERYONE THINKS MALAYSIA IS 3RD WORLD" - AMERICANS SHOCKED BY CLEAN HIGHWAYS

When I read about Americans being surprised by Malaysia’s clean highways during former President Donald Trump’s ASEAN visit, I wasn’t shocked — I was proud. As a Malaysian, I have always believed that the term “third world country” no longer represents who we are. That label, created during the Cold War, was meant to categorize nations that were neither aligned with the West nor the Soviet bloc. Yet, decades later, people still use it as a way to measure how “developed” or “civilized” a nation is. The truth is, Malaysia has far outgrown that stereotype.

The viral footage of Trump’s presidential motorcade cruising along the Maju Expressway revealed highways so clean, wide, and modern that many Americans were shocked. One even commented that our roads looked better than those in Charlotte, North Carolina — a developed city in one of the world’s richest countries. That comparison speaks volumes. It challenges the long-standing Western narrative that countries in Southeast Asia are underdeveloped or dirty. The fact is, Malaysia’s infrastructure has been improving steadily for decades. Our highways are among the best in Asia, maintained with efficiency and care that rival developed nations.

For years, Western media has painted nations like Malaysia with a single brush — poor, chaotic, and corrupt. They rarely show the modern cities, the world-class airports, or the advanced public transportation systems we’ve built. Instead, they focus on rural areas or outdated images that no longer reflect reality. That’s why when foreigners visit Kuala Lumpur for the first time, they are often stunned. They see gleaming skyscrapers like the Petronas Twin Towers, bustling urban life, and roads that are smooth, clean, and efficient. It’s a wake-up call for those who still think of us as being stuck in the past.

To me, Malaysia is not a “third world” country — we are a developing nation with strong ambition and potential. Yes, we face challenges: corruption scandals, traffic jams, and the occasional inefficiency in governance. But which country doesn’t? Even in the United States, you can find poverty, homelessness, and crumbling infrastructure. The difference is, our problems are often exaggerated by outsiders, while our achievements are overlooked. What matters most is our direction — and Malaysia is clearly moving forward.

Over the years, Malaysia has made remarkable progress in technology, digital innovation, and education. Our cities are becoming smarter, our public facilities more inclusive, and our youth more globally minded. The government and private sector have invested heavily in sustainable infrastructure, ensuring our highways and public spaces remain clean and safe. The Maju Expressway, in particular, is a symbol of that progress — representing efficiency, modernization, and pride in national development.

When foreigners express shock at how clean or advanced Malaysia is, I don’t feel offended. Instead, I see it as an opportunity to change their perception. It’s a reminder that the world still has much to learn about who we are. Each time a visitor is surprised by our modern lifestyle, it becomes a silent victory for us Malaysians — proof that we have surpassed expectations.

We are a nation that blends tradition with progress. We can enjoy nasi lemak at a roadside stall in the morning and attend a global tech conference in the afternoon. We can preserve our cultural heritage while embracing digital transformation. That is what makes Malaysia special — our ability to move forward without losing our identity.

So yes, when I see those videos of clean highways and hear foreigners gasp in disbelief, I smile. Because behind every clean road and modern building lies the hard work of millions of Malaysians who take pride in their country. We may not be perfect, but we are progressing — and that progress deserves recognition. Malaysia is no longer just a developing country trying to catch up. We are a proud, capable nation standing tall on the global stage.

It’s time the world retires the outdated label of “third world” and starts seeing Malaysia for what it truly is: a vibrant, modern, and forward-looking nation that’s paving its own road to success — one clean highway at a time.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU: 天空不总是晴朗，但梦想必须继续飞翔. LANGIT TIDAK SELALU CERAH TETAPI IMPIAN HARUS TERUS TERBANG

Setiap insan yang berjaya pernah melalui hari-hari mendung dalam hidupnya. Begitulah juga dengan perjalanan seorang pelajar, tidak semuanya mudah, tidak semuanya indah. Ada masa kita gagal, ada masa kita kecewa, dan ada ketika kita terasa ingin mengalah. Namun, percayalah, langit yang mendung bukan tanda segalanya berakhir. Di sebalik awan kelabu, ada cahaya mentari yang sedang menanti untuk menyinar kembali. Hidup ini bukan tentang berapa kali kita jatuh, tetapi tentang berapa kali kita bangkit dan terus melangkah dengan hati yang kuat.

Sebagai pengetua, saya ingin menyampaikan satu pesan penting, jangan takut kepada kegagalan. Kegagalan bukan penamat, tetapi permulaan kepada kebijaksanaan. Apabila kita tersilap, kita belajar untuk memperbaiki diri. Apabila kita jatuh, kita tahu bagaimana untuk berdiri lebih teguh. Dalam dunia yang penuh cabaran ini, pelajar yang berjaya bukanlah mereka yang tidak pernah gagal, tetapi mereka yang tidak pernah berhenti mencuba. Jadikan setiap kesilapan sebagai guru, dan setiap cabaran sebagai peluang untuk membuktikan kemampuan diri.

Ingatlah, impian tidak akan datang bergolek. Ia memerlukan usaha, pengorbanan, dan disiplin. Tidak ada jalan pintas menuju kejayaan, tetapi setiap langkah kecil ke hadapan membawa kita semakin dekat dengan cita-cita. Jangan takut untuk bermimpi besar kerana mimpi yang besar akan mendorong kita berusaha lebih kuat. Namun, biarlah mimpi itu berpaksikan nilai dan kejujuran. Kejayaan tanpa nilai tidak akan memberi makna, tetapi kejayaan dengan akhlak dan integriti akan kekal dihormati sepanjang hayat.

Saya juga ingin mengingatkan bahawa setiap pelajar memiliki keunikan tersendiri. Jangan bandingkan diri dengan orang lain, kerana perjalanan hidup setiap insan berbeza. Ada yang cepat berjaya, ada yang memerlukan lebih masa. Apa yang penting, teruslah percaya bahawa kamu mampu. Setiap usaha yang jujur pasti membuahkan hasil. Jangan malu untuk meminta bantuan apabila memerlukan, dan jangan segan untuk menghulurkan tangan kepada rakan yang sedang kesusahan. Dunia ini menjadi lebih indah apabila kita saling menyokong dan menguatkan antara satu sama lain.

Akhir kata, jadilah pelajar yang berani bermimpi, tabah berusaha, dan tidak mudah menyerah. Hidup ini ibarat langit  adakalanya cerah, adakalanya mendung, tetapi awan gelap tidak akan kekal selamanya. Selagi ada semangat dan harapan, selagi itu impianmu mampu terbang tinggi. Teruskan langkah, meskipun perlahan. Percayalah, setiap peluh, air mata, dan doa akan membuahkan hasil yang indah pada waktunya. Jadikan hari ini titik permulaan untuk terbang lebih jauh menuju masa depan yang kamu impikan dengan hati yang yakin dan jiwa yang kuat.

天空不总是晴朗，但梦想必须继续飞翔

每一个成功的人，都曾经历过生命中阴云密布的日子。学生的成长之路亦是如此——并非总是顺利，也并非总是光彩。我们有时会失败，有时会失望，甚至想要放弃。然而，请相信，阴天并不意味着一切的结束。在乌云的背后，总有阳光等待再次洒落。人生的意义不在于我们跌倒了多少次，而在于我们有多少次选择重新站起、继续前行。

作为校长，我想告诉你们——不要害怕失败。失败并不是终点，而是通往智慧的起点。当我们犯错时，我们学会改进自己；当我们跌倒时，我们懂得如何站得更稳。在这个充满挑战的世界中，成功的学生不是从未失败的人，而是那些永不停止尝试的人。让每一次错误成为你的老师，让每一次挑战成为证明自我价值的机会。

请记住，梦想不会自动实现。它需要努力、牺牲和自律。通往成功没有捷径，但每一个小小的步伐，都会让你更接近目标。不要害怕拥有伟大的梦想，因为宏大的梦想会激励你更加奋进。然而，愿你的梦想始终建立在价值与诚信之上。没有品格的成功毫无意义，唯有以道德与真诚为根基的成就，才能让人一生尊敬。

我也想提醒大家，每位学生都有自己独特的节奏和天赋。不要拿自己去和别人比较，因为每个人的人生旅程都不一样。有人早早成功，有人需要更多时间。最重要的是——永远相信自己可以做到。每一份真诚的努力，都会在未来开花结果。当你遇到困难时，不要害怕寻求帮助；当你看到别人跌倒时，也请伸出援手。这个世界会因为我们彼此支持而变得更加温暖与美好。

最后，请做一个勇于梦想、坚韧不拔、永不放弃的学生。人生就像天空——有时晴朗，有时阴暗，但乌云不会永远停留。只要心中仍有希望，梦想就能继续飞翔。继续迈步，即使缓慢；继续相信，即使艰难。请相信，你的努力、汗水与泪水，终将化为最美的收获。让今天成为你再次起飞的时刻——怀抱信念，勇敢追寻属于你的未来。

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : OUR CHILDREN: A TRUST AND LEGACY FOR THE FUTURE

As a principal, I have often observed that the success of a school is not merely measured by the academic achievements of its students, but by something far deeper — the strength of the partnership between home and school. Our children are not simply learners in a classroom; they are individuals in the process of self-discovery, finding their purpose, and shaping the values that will define their future. Therefore, educating them is a profound trust — one that rests not only on the shoulders of teachers but also in the hearts of every parent who serves as the first and most influential guide in a child’s life. This trust is not just a duty; it is an act of devotion that calls for sincerity, patience, and unwavering love.

Parents are the first educators of every child. The way we speak, act, and respond becomes the mirror through which they learn about life. When children see their parents respecting knowledge, valuing effort, and honouring teachers, they too will grow with those same principles. In this regard, the school plays a complementary role to the education that begins at home. Thus, strong collaboration between parents and teachers is vital — not only through attendance at meetings or school events, but also through emotional support, open communication, and mutual trust in the school’s efforts to nurture their children.

At times, we may measure a child’s success solely by their examination results, yet true success goes beyond grades — it lies in character, discipline, and integrity. A successful child is not merely one who scores straight A’s, but one who respects others, dares to try, and never gives up in the face of challenges. Parental support in developing these traits is crucial. When children realise that they are loved and valued not only for their achievements but also for their effort and sincerity, they will grow with confidence, resilience, and a strong moral foundation.

The school, on the other hand, provides a safe and nurturing environment for children to learn and flourish. However, without encouragement from home, the school’s efforts will be incomplete. Parents should be actively involved in their child’s development — by asking about their day, listening to their feelings, and working together to overcome challenges. A harmonious relationship between parents and school builds a strong support network, allowing every child to feel cared for and appreciated by a community that truly values education.

Ultimately, we must remember that our children do not belong solely to us — they are a divine trust, entrusted to us to guide and shape. They are the heirs of our nation’s future — inheritors of its values, culture, and dignity. Our responsibility is to ensure that they grow into individuals who are knowledgeable, well-mannered, and noble in spirit. Let us join hands and hearts, united in our mission to raise a generation that shines not only in intellect but also in virtue. Together, we can nurture every child into a precious gem that will illuminate the future of our people and our nation.

CATATAN 5 BAHASA : TENANG HARI INI, INDAH HARI ESOK

Kita sering kali terperangkap dalam bayangan masa depan yang belum tentu hadir, sehinggakan kita lupa untuk benar-benar hidup pada hari ini. Fikiran kita penuh dengan persoalan: “Bagaimana kalau aku gagal? Apa yang akan diperkatakan orang? Apa pandangan keluarga terhadap diriku?” Hari demi hari, kita terlalu sibuk melayan keresahan tentang perkara yang belum pun berlaku, hingga akhirnya kita penat dengan bayang-bayang ciptaan minda sendiri. Padahal, masa depan itu tidak pernah meminta kita untuk mengetahui segalanya. Ia tidak pernah menuntut jawapan pasti. Apa yang masa depan inginkan hanyalah kejujuran kita pada langkah hari ini—jujur pada diri, jujur pada usaha, jujur pada niat. Kita selalu lupa bahawa masa depan tidak terbina dengan angan-angan kosong, tetapi lahir daripada pilihan kecil yang kita buat saat ini. Semakin kita gusar, semakin kabur pandangan kita terhadap jalan sebenar, lalu kita kehilangan nikmat untuk menghargai detik yang sedang kita lalui.

Jika benar kita mendambakan masa depan yang tenang, maka belajarlah untuk membina ketenangan itu dalam diri kita hari ini. Ketenangan bukan datang daripada tergesa-gesa mengejar sesuatu yang masih jauh, tetapi daripada kesedaran penuh dalam setiap langkah kecil. Belajar untuk menghargai satu nafas yang kita tarik, satu langkah yang kita ambil, dan satu doa yang kita panjatkan, kerana itu pun sudah cukup sebagai tanda kita sedang bergerak ke hadapan. Jangan remehkan perkara kecil; nafas hari ini adalah tenaga untuk esok, langkah hari ini adalah jejak menuju masa depan, doa hari ini adalah cahaya yang membimbing jalan kita. Hidup bukan tentang berlari tanpa henti, tetapi tentang berjalan dengan sedar, supaya setiap langkah membawa makna. Maka, hiduplah dengan penuh kesedaran sekarang, kerana hanya dengan itu masa depan akan terbina dengan lebih indah, lebih tenang, dan lebih jujur terhadap siapa diri kita yang sebenarnya.

Peaceful Today,                                          Beautiful the Tomorrow to Come

We are often trapped in the shadow of a future that has yet to arrive, to the point that we forget to truly live in the present. Our minds are filled with questions: “What if I fail? What will people say? How will my family see me?” Day after day, we busy ourselves with worries about things that have not even happened, until eventually we grow weary from the weight of our own imagination. Yet the future never asks us to know everything in advance. It never demands definite answers. What the future really wants is our honesty in the steps we take today—honesty with ourselves, honesty in our efforts, and honesty in our intentions. Too often we forget that the future is not built upon empty dreams, but is born out of the small choices we make in this very moment. The more restless we become, the more blurred our vision of the true path ahead, and the more we lose the ability to appreciate the present that is unfolding before us.

If we truly desire a peaceful future, then we must first learn to cultivate that peace within ourselves today. Peace does not come from rushing headlong towards something still far away, but from being fully aware in each small step we take. Learn to value every breath we draw, every step we make, and every prayer we raise, for each of these is enough to carry us forward. Never underestimate the small things: the breath we take today is the energy for tomorrow, the step we take today is the footprint towards the future, and the prayer we whisper today is the light that will guide our way. Life is not about running endlessly, but about walking with awareness, ensuring that each step carries meaning. Therefore, live with full consciousness in the present, for only then will the future be built with greater beauty, greater peace, and greater truth in who we truly are.

「今天安宁，明天必将更美好」

我们常常被尚未到来的未来所困扰，以至于忘记了真正地活在当下。我们的脑海里充满了各种疑问：“如果我失败了怎么办？别人会怎么看我？我的家人会如何看待我？” 日复一日，我们总是忙于担忧那些还未发生的事情，直到最终被自己想象出来的阴影拖得筋疲力尽。可是，未来从未要求我们知道一切，它也不需要我们给出确定的答案。未来真正需要的，不过是我们今天所迈出的每一步的真诚——对自己真诚，对努力真诚，对心意真诚。我们常常忘记，未来不是凭空的幻想堆砌出来的，而是由此时此刻每一个小小的选择筑成。越是焦虑，我们的眼前就越模糊，前行的方向也越不清晰，甚至让我们失去了享受当下时光的能力。

如果我们真的渴望一个安宁的未来，那么首先必须学会在今天的生活里种下安宁。宁静并不是来自急匆匆地追逐遥远的目标，而是来自于对每一步小小行动的清醒觉知。学会珍惜我们每一次呼吸、每一次脚步、每一次祈祷，因为它们本身就足以支撑我们继续前行。不要小看这些细微之处：今天的呼吸是明日的力量，今天的脚步是通往未来的足迹，而今天的祈祷则是照亮前路的光。生命并不是无休止的奔跑，而是有意识的行走，让每一步都承载意义。因此，请用清醒的心活在当下，唯有如此，我们的未来才会更美丽、更宁静，也更忠实地映照出真正的自己。

Tranquillus Hodie, Pulchrum Cras Venturum

Saepius in umbris futuri, quod nondum advenit, implicamur, adeo ut praesentem vitam obliviscamur. Mens nostra plena est quaestionibus: “Quid si deficiam? Quid homines de me dicent? Quid familia mea sentiet?” Cotidie anxii sumus de rebus nondum factis, donec tandem umbris imaginationis nostrae ipsi fatigamur. At vero futurum numquam postulavit ut omnia sciremus; numquam certa responsa poposcit. Futurum id unum exigit, ut hodie sinceri simus in gradibus quos facimus—sinceri nobiscum ipsis, in conatibus, in consiliis. Saepe obliviscimur futurum non ex inanibus somniis constitui, sed ex parvis electionibus huius momenti nasci. Quo magis anxii sumus, eo obscurior fit via quae ante nos iacet, atque praesentis temporis fructus amittimus.

Si revera tranquillum futurum desideramus, discamus hodie tranquillitatem in nobis ipsis serere. Quies non oritur ex festinatione ad rem adhuc longinquam persequendam, sed ex plena conscientia in unoquoque parvo gradu. Discamus aestimare singulos spiritus quos ducimus, singulos gressus quos ponimus, singulas preces quas fundimus; nam haec satis sunt ad iter nostrum sustinendum. Nolite parva contemnere: spiritus huius diei est vis crastini, gressus huius diei est vestigium futuri, et prex huius diei est lux viam nostram illuminans. Vita non est cursus sine fine, sed ambulatio cum conscientia, ut quisque gradus significationem ferat. Ergo in praesenti pleno animo vivite; sic tantum futurum pulchrius, tranquillius, ac verius in vera nostra imagine aedificabitur.

“오늘이 평온하면, 내일은 아름답게 온다”

우리는 종종 아직 오지 않은 미래의 그림자에 사로잡혀 지금 이 순간을 진정으로 살아가는 것을 잊곤 합니다. 머릿속은 온갖 질문으로 가득 차 있습니다. “만약 내가 실패하면 어떡하지? 사람들은 나를 어떻게 볼까? 가족은 나를 어떻게 생각할까?” 날마다 아직 일어나지도 않은 일들을 걱정하다가 결국은 스스로 만들어낸 그림자에 지쳐버립니다. 그러나 미래는 결코 우리가 모든 것을 미리 알기를 요구하지 않습니다. 미래는 확실한 답을 원하지 않습니다. 미래가 진정으로 바라는 것은 오늘 우리가 내딛는 발걸음에서의 정직함입니다. 자기 자신에게 솔직하고, 노력에 솔직하며, 마음에 솔직한 태도 말입니다. 우리는 흔히 미래가 헛된 꿈에서 만들어지는 것이 아니라, 지금 이 순간 우리가 내리는 작은 선택들로 세워진다는 사실을 잊곤 합니다. 불안할수록 우리의 시야는 흐려지고, 앞길은 더욱 모호해지며, 결국 현재를 누릴 힘을 잃게 됩니다.

만약 우리가 진정으로 평온한 미래를 바란다면, 먼저 오늘의 삶 속에서 그 평온을 길러야 합니다. 평온은 아직 멀리 있는 무언가를 성급히 좇는 데서 오는 것이 아니라, 작은 걸음 하나하나에 깃든 온전한 자각에서 비롯됩니다. 우리가 내쉬는 한 번의 숨, 내딛는 한 걸음, 그리고 올리는 한 마디 기도를 소중히 여길 줄 알아야 합니다. 그것들만으로도 우리는 앞으로 나아갈 힘을 얻습니다. 사소해 보이는 것들을 결코 가볍게 여기지 마십시오. 오늘의 숨결은 내일의 에너지이고, 오늘의 발걸음은 미래로 향하는 발자취이며, 오늘의 기도는 길을 밝혀주는 빛이 됩니다. 인생은 끝없이 달리는 경주가 아니라, 의식하며 걸어가는 여정입니다. 한 걸음 한 걸음이 의미를 담을 때, 우리는 비로소 온전하게 살아가는 것입니다. 그러므로 지금 이 순간을 온 마음으로 살아가십시오. 그래야만 미래가 더 아름답고, 더 평온하며, 더 진정한 우리의 모습으로 세워질 것입니다.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : MOTIVATION FOR SCHOOL LEADERS

Being a school leader is never a simple duty. It is a calling that demands resilience, vision, and a steadfast heart. The role extends far beyond ensuring the smooth running of daily administration; it encompasses shaping the culture, values, and direction of the entire school community. Leadership, especially in education, is not about popularity. It is about responsibility, conviction, and the courage to make decisions that may not always be liked, but are necessary for the good of students, teachers, and society at large.

Leadership Is More Than Popularity

A true school leader must never fall into the trap of trying to please everyone. If popularity becomes the guiding principle, the core mission of education will be compromised. There are moments when leaders must enforce discipline, raise academic standards, or introduce reforms that are initially met with resistance. Such decisions may be unpopular, but they are crucial for the long-term benefit of the school. A leader’s worth is not measured by applause or approval but by the strength of character to stand firm for what is right.

Becoming a Beacon of Light

A school leader must be a source of inspiration—a beacon of light that guides teachers, staff, and students towards excellence. Leadership is not just about policies or strategies; it is about modelling integrity, fairness, and commitment. When a leader demonstrates discipline, positivity, and sincerity, these values ripple throughout the school community. Just as a torch illuminates the path for others, a leader’s character and example light the way forward for the entire institution.

Courage to Lead Change

Education today is evolving rapidly, shaped by technology, globalisation, and new approaches to teaching and learning. A school leader must therefore be bold enough to embrace change and innovation. Introducing digital tools, adopting modern pedagogical methods, or practising data-driven decision-making requires courage and vision. Failure should not be feared, for it is a stepping stone to growth. It is far better to attempt new initiatives and learn from mistakes than to cling to outdated practices that hinder progress.

Building Trust and Collaboration

Though it is impossible to satisfy everyone, building trust remains essential. Effective school leaders nurture open communication with teachers, staff, students, and parents. By listening with empathy and respecting diverse perspectives, they build a culture of trust and inclusivity. True leadership is not about commanding authority but about fostering collaboration. When people feel valued and involved, they are more likely to support even the most difficult decisions.

Staying True to the Mission of Education

Amid challenges, criticism, and distractions, school leaders must remain focused on their central mission: to educate and shape future generations. Leadership in education is not only about raising examination results but also about nurturing well-rounded individuals with integrity, discipline, and resilience. Every trial faced by a leader—whether financial constraints, resistance to change, or societal pressure—should be seen as an opportunity to strengthen the school and sharpen one’s leadership.

Conclusion

To lead a school is to embark on a journey of sacrifice and service. It is not a path lined with constant praise, but one that demands perseverance, courage, and vision. If a leader only seeks to be liked, their impact will remain shallow. But if they stand firm in principle, make decisions with conviction, and consistently pursue the noble mission of education, they may not be liked by all, but they will earn respect from all. And respect, more than fleeting popularity, is the foundation of true and lasting leadership.

给学校领导的激励

成为一名学校领导从来不是一件简单的事情。这是一种使命，需要坚韧、远见和坚定的心。这个角色远远超出了保证日常行政运作顺利的范畴，它还包括塑造整个学校社区的文化、价值观和方向。领导力，尤其是在教育领域，并不是关于受欢迎程度，而是关于责任、信念，以及勇于作出可能不受欢迎但必要的决定，这些决定是为了学生、教师和整个社会的福祉。

领导力不仅仅是受欢迎

真正的学校领导绝不能陷入取悦所有人的陷阱。如果把受欢迎作为指导原则，教育的核心使命就会受到影响。有时，领导者必须严格执行纪律，提高学术标准，或推行最初可能会遇到阻力的改革。这些决定可能不受欢迎，但对学校的长远发展至关重要。一个领导者的价值并不是以掌声或赞美来衡量，而是以坚持正义的坚定品格来体现。

成为一盏指路明灯

学校领导必须成为灵感的源泉——一盏为教师、员工和学生指引卓越之路的明灯。领导力不仅仅是政策或策略，它更关乎以身作则，展现诚信、公正和奉献。当领导者表现出纪律、积极和真诚时，这些价值观就会在整个学校社区中传播。正如火炬不仅照亮自己，还为他人照亮前路一样，领导者的品格和榜样为整个学校指明方向。

拥有引领变革的勇气

当今的教育正在迅速发展，受科技、全球化和新的教学方法影响。学校领导必须有勇气拥抱变革和创新。引入数字化工具、采用现代教学方法或推行数据驱动的决策，都需要勇气和远见。不要害怕失败，因为失败只是成长的垫脚石。尝试新举措并从错误中学习，远胜于固守过时做法而阻碍进步。

建立信任与合作

虽然不可能让所有人都满意，但建立信任仍然至关重要。有效的学校领导者会与教师、员工、学生和家长保持开放的沟通。通过以同理心倾听、尊重多元观点，他们能营造信任与包容的文化。真正的领导力并不是单纯的权威，而是促进合作。当人们感到被重视和参与其中时，他们更有可能支持即便是最艰难的决定。

忠于教育的使命

在面对挑战、批评和干扰时，学校领导必须始终专注于核心使命：教育并塑造未来的一代。教育领导不仅仅是提高考试成绩，更是培养全面发展的人才，他们具备诚信、纪律和韧性。领导者所面对的每一次考验——无论是资金限制、对变革的抵制，还是社会压力——都应被视为加强学校和磨砺领导力的机会。

结论

领导一所学校是一段牺牲与奉献的旅程。这条道路并不总是伴随着掌声，而是需要坚持、勇气和远见。如果领导者只追求被喜欢，他们的影响力将是浅薄的。但如果他们坚守原则，带着信念作出决定，并始终如一地追求崇高的教育使命，他们或许不会被所有人喜欢，但一定会赢得所有人的尊重。而尊重，比短暂的受欢迎，更是领导力真正而持久的基石。

Appoint Full-Time Boarding Wardens to Tackle Bullying in Schools

The challenges of managing boarding schools today are vastly different from those of the past. Where once boarding school students were known for discipline, values, and camaraderie, the situation has shifted dramatically. The unchecked influence of social media and the digital environment has eroded the sense of humanity in many young people. Bullying in schools is no longer a trivial or isolated issue—it has escalated to the point where lives have been lost, and cases have ended up in court with offenders still in their teenage years.

This is a bitter reality that must be confronted. As a serious step towards addressing it, it is time for the government to consider the appointment of full-time boarding wardens in every residential school.

Full-Time Wardens: An Urgent Need

Boarding schools can no longer rely entirely on teachers to shoulder the responsibility of supervising students in hostels. Teachers are already burdened with a host of duties—teaching, preparing lessons, marking work, attending meetings, and managing administrative tasks. Although some receive allowances for acting as wardens, many teachers understandably decline these roles as they interfere with their primary responsibilities and reduce precious family time after school hours.

For this reason, boarding wardens must be appointed as permanent, full-time positions. These wardens are not merely caretakers, but dedicated officers who live among the students, maintain offices within the hostel premises, and take full responsibility for monitoring behaviour, safety, and welfare on a daily basis.

The Need for Both Male and Female Wardens

Every boarding school should have at least two wardens—one male and one female. This ensures that supervision is appropriate and effective across both genders. The presence of wardens who are permanently stationed in the hostels would not only deter bullying but also foster a sense of security and belonging. Students would know that someone is always available to listen, to guide, and to act if necessary.

Safeguarding Teachers’ Focus

Teachers must be allowed to concentrate on their primary role—educating and nurturing their students. Adding the heavy responsibility of hostel wardenship only dilutes their teaching effectiveness and undermines their work-life balance. The situation is already pressing, with most schools conducting extra classes to counter the decline in academic performance following the abolition of public assessments such as the Primary School Evaluation Test (UPSR) and the Lower Secondary Assessment (PMR/PT3). With these new pressures, burdening teachers with hostel supervision is unfair and unsustainable.

Conclusion

Given the current circumstances, appointing permanent full-time boarding wardens is no longer an option but an urgent necessity. Their presence would ensure consistent monitoring, stronger discipline, and a safer environment where bullying could be tackled effectively. Meanwhile, teachers would be free to return to their rightful focus: providing quality education in the classroom.

If we are truly committed to protecting our young people from violence, dehumanisation, and destructive influences, then establishing a professional warden system in boarding schools is the most logical step forward. The future of our students, their safety, and the reputation of our education system depend on such bold action.

The School Principal: A Challenging Calling

Being a school principal is not merely about holding a title or a position of authority. It is a profound trust, an amanah, that demands dedication, wisdom, and extraordinary patience. To many outsiders, the role may seem prestigious—an office of one’s own, the power to make decisions, the respect of the community. Yet behind that perception lies a reality far greater: the principal is not simply an administrator, but a leader, a teacher, a motivator, and above all, a guardian of the future of hundreds, if not thousands, of young lives.

Leading by Action, Not Just by Words

The renowned leadership expert John C. Maxwell once said, “A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” These words remind me constantly that a principal’s duty is not to rule from behind a desk, but to lead by example. If I expect my teachers to be dedicated, I must first show dedication. If I expect my students to be disciplined, I must model discipline myself. True leadership is not born of instructions; it is born of action, of walking the very path one asks others to follow.

The Academic Challenge

One of the greatest responsibilities of a principal is to ensure that academic standards are upheld and improved. But academic success is not only about examination scores or grades. Albert Einstein once said, “Education is not the learning of facts, but the training of the mind to think.” That insight carries deep meaning for me as a school leader. It reminds me that my role is not only to push for higher marks, but to inspire teachers to nurture curiosity, creativity, and critical thinking in every student. True education is about shaping minds that can question, innovate, and lead.

Discipline with Wisdom

Beyond academics, discipline among students presents another immense challenge. Today’s digital age offers countless opportunities, but it also brings with it new risks—cyberbullying, gadget addiction, and social distractions that threaten focus and character. As a principal, I cannot afford to rely solely on punishment. I must first seek to understand my students, to uncover the roots of their struggles, and to guide them with empathy and firmness in equal measure. Discipline is not about instilling fear, but about nurturing respect and responsibility. The art lies in finding balance—neither too harsh to alienate, nor too lenient to invite disregard.

Bridging Teachers, Parents, and the Community

A school does not exist in isolation. Its success depends on the strength of its connections. As principal, I must be the bridge between teachers, students, parents, and the wider community. Strong ties with the Parent-Teacher Association are essential in building trust and unity of purpose. Tan Sri Musa Mohamad, a respected Malaysian education leader, once reminded us: “Successful education is the result of cooperation between all parties—teachers, students, parents, and the community.” Those words echo powerfully, for they underline the truth that no principal, however capable, can succeed alone. True progress is always collective.

Bearing Pressure with Strength

The life of a principal is not free of strain. There are days when criticism arrives uninvited, when decisions must be made that please some and disappoint others. Yet this is the reality of leadership. Criticism, I have learnt, need not be a weapon to wound—it can be a mirror for growth. If I, as principal, cannot control my own emotions, how then can I expect my teachers or students to remain steady? Calmness in a leader is not a luxury; it is a necessity. A principal must be the anchor in storms, the steady hand that reassures others that all will be well.

Conclusion: A Noble Mission

Yes, being a school principal is a demanding, even daunting, responsibility. But within that challenge lies great nobility. I am not merely managing a school—I am shaping the destiny of a generation. Every decision I make, every word I speak, and every action I take carries weight beyond my own life.

This role is not about authority, but about service. It is not about personal recognition, but about collective success. The trials are many, but they are what give this calling its meaning. For in guiding teachers, inspiring students, and engaging parents, I know I am playing a part in building a better nation, one classroom at a time.

And that is the true honour of being a principal.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : THE TRUE ASSESSOR OF A TEACHER

Who is the real evaluator of a teacher? Many may believe that it is the headmaster, the inspector, or the examination results. Yet in truth, the genuine assessor is the student. It is the student who, through daily interaction, forms a silent yet powerful judgement of the teacher’s character, competence, and dedication. Sadly, many teachers remain unaware that they are constantly being assessed whenever they step into the classroom or engage in even the simplest of conversations with their pupils.

A teacher’s ability to communicate effectively is central to this evaluation. Words carry weight, and the way they are used can inspire or discourage. When speaking to students, teachers must employ polite, respectful, and clear language. Patience is essential, especially when handling obstinate or mischievous pupils. Raising one’s voice in anger or using phrases with negative connotations does not foster respect. Rather, it erodes trust and diminishes the teacher’s stature in the eyes of the students. Children may forgive occasional mistakes, but they never forget the tone or attitude of the adults who shape their daily lives.

Teachers must remember that they are examples, not only in the knowledge they impart but also in the way they live. Every gesture, expression, and word becomes a lesson in itself. Students are not passive recipients of information; they are observers and storytellers. They carry what they see and hear into their homes, recounting to their parents the behaviour of their teachers. If a teacher consistently demonstrates kindness, fairness, and sincerity, parents too will develop confidence in that teacher’s guidance. Conversely, negative behaviour will just as quickly travel from classroom to family dinner table, tarnishing the teacher’s image.

The classroom, therefore, must be seen as sacred time. The teacher’s primary responsibility is to instruct, guide, and inspire. When lessons are conducted with dedication and honesty, the benefits to students are immeasurable. They not only absorb knowledge more effectively but also develop a respect for the subject and the person teaching it. Indeed, students often perform exceptionally well in subjects taught by teachers who are sincere and passionate. They strive harder, take pride in their achievements, and are motivated to learn.

This leads to an observable pattern: in examination results, there is frequently an imbalance. Students achieve many A grades in subjects where the teacher is committed, enthusiastic, and compassionate, but their performance in other subjects may be mediocre. Such disparities cannot be explained solely by a student’s aptitude; rather, they point to the influence of the teacher’s approach. School authorities would do well to investigate these differences more carefully. Behind every statistic lies a story of how a teacher’s attitude and communication style shaped the motivation of their students.

This reflection, however, is not meant as a criticism of teachers. I myself am a teacher, and I understand the pressures and complexities of the profession. Much happens in a school day that can test patience and resilience. Yet it is precisely because of this that regular self-reflection is necessary. We must examine our flaws, acknowledge our weaknesses, and make conscious efforts to improve. A good teacher is not one who never errs, but one who strives to learn from mistakes and grow.

The world has changed drastically, and so too has parenting. Parents today raise their children differently from those of past generations. Consequently, students’ perceptions of teachers have shifted. Respect is no longer automatic; it must be earned through consistent integrity, skill, and empathy. This reality demands that all teachers develop and practise sound communication skills. Self-control is vital. A careless word, an impatient reaction, or a moment of anger may seem small, but in the eyes of a student, it can become a defining memory. Negative behaviours, once displayed, easily become spectacles that students repeat and exaggerate, diminishing the authority of the teacher.

Ultimately, teachers must recognise that they are not only transmitters of knowledge but also shapers of character. Every interaction contributes to the silent assessment carried out by students. To be found worthy in this evaluation, teachers must cultivate patience, compassion, and humility. They must embrace communication as an art that inspires rather than wounds. In doing so, they will not only gain the respect of their pupils but also ignite in them the motivation to succeed. The true measure of a teacher’s success lies not only in examination grades, but in the enduring respect and gratitude of the students they once taught.

谁才是真正的教师评判者

谁才是真正的教师评判者？许多人认为是校长、督学，或是考试成绩。然而，事实上，真正的评判者是学生。正是学生通过日常互动，默默而有力地评价着教师的品格、能力和敬业精神。遗憾的是，许多教师并未意识到，当他们走进课堂，或在最简单的对话中与学生交流时，他们正在被不断地评估。

教师能否有效沟通，是这一评估的核心。言语具有重量，其使用方式可以激励人心，也可以使人气馁。与学生交谈时，教师必须使用礼貌、尊重而清晰的语言。耐心至关重要，尤其是在面对固执或顽皮的学生时。愤怒地提高嗓门，或使用带有负面色彩的词句，并不能赢得尊重，反而会破坏信任，削弱教师在学生心中的形象。孩子们或许会原谅偶尔的错误，但他们永远不会忘记影响他们生活的成年人所表现出的语气与态度。

教师必须铭记，他们不仅是知识的传授者，更是行为的榜样。每一个动作、表情和言辞都本身就是一堂课。学生不是被动的信息接受者，他们是敏锐的观察者，也是善于讲述的叙事者。他们会把在课堂上看到和听到的带回家，与父母分享教师的言行。如果一位教师始终展现出善良、公正与真诚，家长也会对这位教师充满信任。相反，负面的行为也会同样迅速地传到餐桌上，损害教师的形象。

因此，课堂必须被视为神圣的时光。教师的首要责任是教导、引领并激励学生。当教师以奉献与诚实的态度教学时，学生受益无穷。他们不仅能够更有效地吸收知识，还会对学科和教师本人产生尊重。事实上，学生往往会在那些由真诚而充满热情的教师所教授的科目中取得优异成绩。他们更加努力，更加自豪，并积极主动地学习。

这也带来了一个明显的现象：在考试成绩中，经常会出现不平衡。学生在那些敬业、热情并富有爱心的教师所教授的科目中拿到很多A，但在其他科目上的表现可能平平。这种差异不能仅仅用学生的天赋来解释，而是指向了教师态度和教学方式的影响。学校管理者应该更深入地研究这种差异。每一个统计数据背后，都隐藏着教师的态度与沟通方式如何影响学生学习动力的故事。

然而，这样的反思并不是为了批评教师。我自己也是一名教师，我理解这一职业所承受的压力与复杂性。校园生活中，许多事情都在考验耐心与毅力。但正因如此，教师才需要定期自我反省。我们必须审视自己的缺点，承认不足，并有意识地改进。一个好教师并不是从不犯错的人，而是能够从错误中学习并不断成长的人。

世界已发生巨大变化，父母教育孩子的方式也不同于过去。随之而来的是学生对教师的看法与尊重也在发生变化。尊重不再是理所当然的，它必须通过持续的正直、能力与同理心来赢得。这一现实要求所有教师培养并实践良好的沟通技巧。自我控制至关重要。一个随意的言辞、一次不耐烦的反应、或一时的愤怒，看似微不足道，但在学生眼中却可能成为决定性的记忆。负面行为一旦出现，很容易被学生夸大、传播，从而削弱教师的威信。

归根结底，教师必须认识到，他们不仅是知识的传递者，更是品格的塑造者。每一次互动都在构成学生对教师的无声评估。若想在这场评估中赢得认可，教师必须培养耐心、慈爱与谦卑。他们必须把沟通视为一种艺术——能激励人而不是伤害人。唯有如此，他们才能赢得学生的尊敬，并激发学生奋发向上的动力。教师的真正成功，不仅体现在考试成绩上，更体现在学生离开校园后依然怀有的尊敬与感激之情。

MY MESSAGE TO YOU: READING CULTURE AS THE FOUNDATION OF MATURE THINKING

Reading culture is indeed a good culture to produce knowledgeable people who can think maturely and logically. People who enjoy reading scientific books and keeping up with current issues have more refined thinking compared to those who are lazy to read. People who are lazy to read easily believe stories that are told to them orally by others. This situation happens in schools. Teachers who teach language subjects like me can detect this problem very quickly. When writing essays, students often lack ideas and end up repeating the same points. They cannot explain the content of the essay well because their knowledge of the issues in the questions is too limited.

The influence of social media, which displays a lot of entertainment and silly jokes, causes many students to have no time to read. They enjoy reading stories on social media, such as news about divorced celebrities, Korean artists visiting Malaysia, netizens’ comments, and watching pointless videos. They spend a lot of time interacting and watching videos on social media. They are not like the previous generation who enjoyed going to the library in the evenings and at weekends. As a result, they lack knowledge about current issues that are often asked in essay questions. For example, the issue of environmental pollution can lead to the spread of infectious diseases. Although this issue is simple, many students fail to answer this question properly.

This situation occurs because they do not like to read new knowledge found in academic magazines, textbooks, and newspapers. As a result, their knowledge is very limited. Because of that, they cannot write mature essays and therefore obtain very low marks. If they are not interested in reading scientific books, they will fall behind. This reading culture should begin at home from a young age. What I often see are parents and children engrossed in looking at their smartphone screens all the time. They do not communicate with each other. They are busy writing and reading messages on WhatsApp, TikTok, WeChat, Telegram, and Facebook. Because of that, they do not have time to read.

I always chat with students about their activities at home after coming back from school. They tell me that they spend their time playing online games. There are four popular types of online games they are interested in, namely Ragnarok Online, Dota/War, Counter Strike, and Command and Conquer: Red Alert. They play these online games until morning. As a result, they do not get enough sleep. The majority of students addicted to these online games are male, although female students are also involved.

In my opinion, reading culture is very important if we want to produce many intelligent people. The government needs to organise more programmes to encourage people to buy and read books. Schools in our country should instil the love of reading among students more intensively. If they do not read a lot, they will definitely fail to answer questions that require critical thinking. Exam questions now focus more on Higher Order Thinking Skills (HOTS). Students who do not like to read will definitely be unable to give the correct answers. They write immature responses.

阅读文化确实是一种良好的文化，它能够培养有知识的人，使他们能够更加成熟、更加有逻辑地思考。喜欢阅读科学书籍和关注时事的人，比起那些懒于阅读的人，思维会更加完善。不爱阅读的人往往轻易相信别人告诉他们的道听途说。这种情况在学校里经常发生。像我这样教授语言科目的教师，很快就能察觉到这一问题。在写作文时，学生常常缺乏想法，于是便重复相同的内容。他们无法很好地阐述文章的内容，因为他们对题目所涉及的问题知之甚少。

社交媒体的影响很大，它展示了大量的娱乐内容和无聊的笑话，导致许多学生没有时间阅读。他们喜欢在社交媒体上浏览各种故事，例如某些艺人的离婚新闻、韩国艺人来马来西亚的消息、网友的评论，以及一些无意义的视频。他们花费大量时间在社交媒体上互动和观看视频。他们不像上一代人那样，喜欢在傍晚或周末去图书馆。因此，他们对经常出现在作文题目中的时事问题缺乏了解。比如，环境污染会导致传染病的传播。尽管这是一个简单的问题，许多学生却依然无法很好地作答。

这种情况的发生，是因为他们不喜欢阅读学术杂志、课本和报纸中的新知识。结果，他们的知识非常有限。也正因如此，他们写不出有深度的作文，只能得到很低的分数。如果他们对阅读科学书籍没有兴趣，他们就会落后。这种阅读文化应该从小在家庭中开始培养。我常看到父母和孩子整天沉迷于各自的手机屏幕。他们彼此之间缺乏沟通，总是忙着在 WhatsApp、抖音（TikTok）、微信、Telegram 和 Facebook 上写信息、读信息。因此，他们没有时间阅读。

我常常和学生聊起他们放学回家后的活动。他们告诉我，他们把时间花在玩网络游戏上。有四种他们喜欢的网络游戏最受欢迎，分别是《仙境传说 Online》、《Dota/War》、《反恐精英》（Counter Strike），以及《命令与征服：红色警戒》。他们玩这些网络游戏直到天亮。结果，他们的睡眠不足。大多数沉迷这些网络游戏的学生是男生，但女生也有参与。

在我看来，如果我们想要培养更多聪明的人，阅读文化非常重要。政府需要开展更多的项目来吸引人们买书、读书。我国的学校应更加深入地培养学生对阅读的热爱。如果他们不大量阅读，他们肯定无法回答那些需要深入思考的问题。现在的考试题目更加注重高层次思维技能（HOTS）。不喜欢阅读的学生肯定无法给出正确的答案。他们写出的回答不够成熟。

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : UNDERSTANDING AND GUIDING CHALLENGING STUDENTS: A TEACHER'S REFLETION

As we grow older, maturity shapes the way we act and respond to challenges. We are no longer childish in our decisions, and our perspectives become more balanced. As a teacher with over two decades of experience, I have learned that teaching is not only about delivering knowledge but also about understanding students’ attitudes and learning how to win their hearts.

In the early years of my career, I struggled with “naughty” or disruptive students. My instinct was to scold them, isolate them, and ignore their behaviour. I believed that those who refused to study hard deserved to fail. If they did not pass their exams, I felt no regret. Like many other teachers, I assumed discipline problems stemmed from laziness or disinterest. However, over time, through self-reflection, I realised that such an approach was limited and unfair.

The Turning Point

My outlook began to change when I made an effort to engage with these students on a personal level. Instead of pushing them away, I approached them. I talked with them, shared food and drinks, and gradually they began to open up about their lives. Their stories were often heartbreaking: family conflicts, financial struggles, neglect, or abuse. Many acted out at school not because they rejected learning, but because they were searching for attention and care.

This revelation reminded me of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs (1943), which emphasises that basic psychological and emotional needs must be met before individuals can focus on higher goals such as academic achievement. Without love, safety, and belonging, learning becomes secondary. Punishing students without understanding their context only deepens their sense of isolation.

Building Relationships with Students

The closer I became to these students, the more I understood them. I began to see them not as troublemakers but as children in need of guidance and compassion. I treated them as if they were my own children, offering encouragement and instilling hope for the future. Over time, I witnessed their transformation. Students once labelled as “naughty” developed into respectful young people who remembered their teachers with gratitude. They greeted me politely even years later, never holding grudges despite the scoldings they endured.

This experience aligns with Noddings’ (2005) theory of the ethic of care, which stresses that teaching is fundamentally relational. Students are more likely to thrive when they feel genuinely cared for and valued as individuals. By humanising my interactions with students, I saw positive changes not only in their behaviour but also in their academic progress.

A Broader Philosophy of Education

After 26 years as a teacher, I no longer differentiate between “good” and “bad” students. I believe every child deserves equal attention and support to succeed. My responsibility is to help all students discover their potential, regardless of their background or behaviour. This perspective echoes the philosophy of holistic education, which views success not merely in terms of academic performance but in developing character, resilience, and self-awareness (Miller, 2007).

I now spend more time motivating students and encouraging them to see education as a pathway to a prosperous life. I remind them that success in life is not determined solely by achieving straight A’s. Rather, it lies in cultivating critical thinking, noble values, and self-respect. Even if they pursue ordinary jobs, they can still live fulfilling lives if they know who they are and love themselves. This aligns with contemporary educational research, which highlights the importance of social-emotional learning (OECD, 2021).

Conclusion

In conclusion, my journey as a teacher has taught me that every student, no matter how disruptive, has a story. What they need is not rejection but guidance, care, and hope. Teachers must look beyond exam grades to nurture the whole person, helping students develop into individuals who are confident, responsible, and compassionate.

I continue to pray that all my students will find direction in their lives. Teaching, for me, is not simply a profession but a calling — an opportunity to shape lives with sincerity and love. True education is not only about producing scholars but about producing human beings who can live meaningfully and with dignity.

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References

• Maslow, A. H. (1943). A Theory of Human Motivation. Psychological Review, 50(4), 370–396.

• Miller, R. (2007). The Self-Organizing Revolution: Common Principles of the Educational Alternatives Movement. Brandon, VT: Holistic Education Press.

• Noddings, N. (2005). The Challenge to Care in Schools: An Alternative Approach to Education. Teachers College Press.

• OECD. (2021). OECD Future of Education and Skills 2030 Concept Note. Paris: OECD Publishing.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : THE LASTING POWER OF A TEACHER ADVICE

Teachers hold a sacred role in shaping the lives of their students. Beyond the classroom walls, beyond the textbooks and examinations, there lies a deeper responsibility: to guide, to nurture, and to offer words of wisdom that will help young people grow into responsible, mature, and morally upright individuals. Advice is the thread that connects a teacher’s heart to a student’s mind, and even if students may not immediately recognise its value, those words will one day resurface as guiding lights in their journey through life.

It is natural for students, especially the young, to resist advice. Adolescence often brings with it a sense of independence and the desire to challenge authority. When teachers offer reminders about discipline, kindness, respect, or hard work, some students may roll their eyes, dismiss the message, or even laugh it off. But teachers must not be discouraged by this temporary rejection. Advice, when given sincerely and consistently, has a way of planting seeds in the mind. Though it may not sprout overnight, with time and life’s experiences, those seeds begin to grow. A student who once ignored a teacher’s advice may, years later, find themselves echoing the same words to their own children or colleagues.

The truth is that young people are often immature. They lack the ability to fully distinguish between right and wrong, between actions that build their future and those that may destroy it. They are easily influenced by peers, by social media, and by fleeting pleasures. In such a stage of life, they need strong voices of reason—voices that come not from celebrities or influencers, but from the adults who stand beside them every day. Teachers, therefore, cannot afford to be silent. If we stop advising, correcting, and reminding our students, we leave them vulnerable to confusion and poor decision-making. Silence from a teacher is not neutral; it is harmful, for it deprives students of the moral compass they so desperately need.

Teachers are not only instructors; they are role models. Students observe not just what we say, but how we act, how we treat others, and how we respond to challenges. This is why our advice carries such weight. When a teacher speaks, the student does not only hear the words but also recalls the teacher’s integrity, patience, and sincerity. Teachers are often remembered not for the lessons they taught in mathematics or grammar, but for the moments they gave guidance, encouragement, or moral reminders. Such moments become etched in memory, shaping a student’s worldview long after they leave school.

The calling of a teacher is a divine trust. We are entrusted with young souls at their most vulnerable stage. God, in His wisdom, chose us for this role because He knows that teachers possess patience, compassion, and a pure heart. We are not perfect, but we carry within us the ability to see beyond grades and achievements, to care for the human being behind the student. Every piece of advice we give, every gentle correction, is not merely discipline but an act of love. To guide a student is to serve God, for in shaping them, we are building the leaders, parents, and citizens of tomorrow.

Advice is powerful because it transcends time. A teacher’s words may not bear fruit immediately, but they linger in the heart, waiting for the right season. One day, when a student faces a difficult choice or a moral dilemma, the advice once given will return, offering clarity and direction. It is in those moments that students truly realise the value of their teachers’ persistence.

Therefore, we must never tire of advising, guiding, and nurturing. To stop is to abandon our duty, and the consequences for our students’ futures would be dire. Even if they resist today, tomorrow they will thank us. Teachers must believe in the unseen harvest of their words, trusting that God has placed them in this role for a reason. Advice may seem small, but in reality, it is a legacy—a gift that endures long after the classroom is left behind.

In conclusion, teachers must continue to advise without ceasing. We are more than educators; we are guardians of young hearts and minds. Our advice is not wasted, for one day, every word spoken in sincerity will prove its worth. To teach is to plant seeds of wisdom, and to advise is to water them with love and patience. God made us teachers because He knew we could carry this noble responsibility with a pure soul. And so, we must never stop, for the future of our students depends on it.

教师劝诫的持久力量

教师在塑造学生人生中肩负着神圣的责任。超越课堂的围墙，超越课本与考试，还有一项更深远的使命：引导、培养，并给予智慧的箴言，帮助年轻人成长为有责任感、成熟且正直的人。劝诫是连接教师之心与学生之脑的纽带。即使学生当下未能立即意识到其价值，这些话语终有一天会在他们的人生旅程中重新浮现，成为指路的明灯。

学生，尤其是年轻人，对劝诫的抗拒是自然的。青春期往往伴随着独立意识以及挑战权威的欲望。当教师提醒他们要守纪律、懂善良、重尊重或勤奋学习时，有些学生可能会翻白眼、置之不理，甚至一笑了之。但教师不应因此而气馁。真诚而持续的劝诫，如同播种在心田的种子。它不会立刻发芽，但随着时间与人生经历，它终将生长。一个曾经忽视教师劝诫的学生，可能多年后会在自己教导孩子或同事时，重复相同的话语。

事实是，年轻人往往还不够成熟。他们缺乏清晰分辨是非的能力，不懂哪些行为能建设未来，哪些行为可能毁掉前程。他们很容易受同伴、社交媒体和短暂的享乐所影响。在这样的人生阶段，他们需要理性的声音——这种声音不应来自明星或网络红人，而应来自每天陪伴他们的成年人。因此，教师绝不能保持沉默。如果我们停止劝诫、提醒和指引，就会让他们陷入迷茫和错误的抉择。教师的沉默并非中立，而是有害，因为这剥夺了学生亟需的道德指南。

教师不仅是知识的传授者，更是榜样。学生观察的不仅是我们说的话，还有我们如何行事、如何待人、如何面对挑战。这就是为什么教师的劝诫格外有分量。当教师开口时，学生不仅听见了话语，还会想起教师的正直、耐心与真诚。许多时候，学生记住的并不是课堂上的语法或数学，而是教师曾给予的鼓励、提醒或道德上的教诲。这些瞬间会铭刻于记忆，远远超越校门，持续影响他们的人生观。

教师的使命是一种神圣的托付。我们被赋予责任，在他们最脆弱的阶段引导年轻的灵魂。上帝在祂的智慧中选择了我们担任教师，因为祂知道教师拥有耐心、慈爱和纯洁的心。我们并非完美，但我们有能力看见成绩背后的那个人，去关怀他们的成长。每一句劝诫、每一次温柔的纠正，都不仅仅是纪律，更是爱的体现。引导学生就是侍奉上帝，因为在塑造他们的同时，我们正在建设未来的领袖、父母和公民。

劝诫之所以强大，是因为它能够超越时间。教师的话语或许不会立即生效，但它会潜藏于心，等待合适的时机。某一天，当学生面临艰难选择或道德困境时，曾经得到的劝诫会再次浮现，给予他们清晰与方向。正是在这些时刻，学生才真正明白教师坚持不懈的价值。

因此，我们绝不能厌倦劝诫、引导和培养。若停止，便是放弃职责，而其对学生未来的影响将极其严重。即使他们今天抗拒，明天他们也会心怀感激。教师必须相信，那些看不见的收获终将到来，相信上帝将我们放在这个岗位自有其意义。劝诫或许看似微小，实际上却是一种遗产——一种超越时光的礼物。

总而言之，教师必须不断地劝诫学生。我们不仅是教育者，更是年轻心灵与思想的守护者。我们的劝诫不会白费，因为终有一天，每一句真诚的话都会证明其价值。教学就是播下智慧的种子，而劝诫则是用爱与耐心浇灌它们。上帝使我们成为教师，因为祂知道我们有一颗纯净的灵魂，能够承担这份高贵的责任。因此，我们绝不能停下脚步，因为学生的未来系于此。

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : THE EXPERIENCE OF HAVING SCAMMER-TYPE FRIENDS

I write sincerely from the heart, sharing an experience that has troubled me deeply: the experience of having scammer-type friends. Many people talk about being scammed online, through emails or phone calls, but what about when the scammer is someone you consider a friend? This is my story, and perhaps it is also yours.

I have a friend who has made it a habit to ask me for money. At first, I did not think much of it. Friendship, after all, means helping one another. When he asked for RM20 or RM50, I willingly obliged. On some occasions, he even asked for RM100 or more. Out of kindness, and because I valued the friendship, I gave him what he asked. But over time, a thought began to grow in my mind: what if I was not the only one? If every month he asked for money from several of his friends, the amount he collected would be substantial. Suddenly, I realised that this was not simply borrowing—it was a pattern of manipulation. This is what I classify as a scammer friend.

The problem with scammer-type friends is that their deception is subtle. They do not snatch money from you directly, nor do they make wild threats. Instead, they appeal to your trust, to your kindness, and to the social bond of friendship. They exploit your sense of loyalty for their personal gain. And because the amounts they request are often small, like RM20 or RM50, you are tempted to believe it is harmless. But when you add it up, the figure becomes shocking. Imagine a person asking RM50 from ten friends every month. That is RM500 a month, more than some people earn in additional part-time work. And yet, the scammer does not work hard for this income; he simply manipulates his friendships.

What makes this worse is that such a friend is not a true friend at all. If you were in trouble, would he rush to help you? I doubt it. He is a friend not because he values your companionship, but because he values your wallet. Friendship, in its truest sense, should be built on trust, respect, and mutual support. A scammer friend destroys that trust and reduces the relationship to a financial transaction. Slowly, you begin to feel used, as though your generosity has been taken for granted.

I have begun to reflect seriously on this matter. Life is too short to carry people who only bring weight and worry. Friends should uplift us, not drain us. If we allow scammer-type friends to stay in our lives, we allow them to continue deceiving us. They make our lives more difficult, and in return we gain nothing but frustration. Even if the amount they ask for is “only” RM50 or RM100, the principle remains the same: it is not right. True friendship is not measured by money, but by sincerity.

One of the most revealing things about such people is how they present themselves. On social media, they look perfectly fine. They post photos of outings, entertainment, and luxuries. It makes me wonder: is the money I gave being used for enjoyment, while I felt guilty for not helping? Our sincere intention to support them is, in reality, turned into their opportunity for laughter. They mock our kindness, perhaps not openly, but in their hearts they feel victorious because they have managed to deceive us.

The saddest part is that when misfortune strikes us, scammer-type friends will not be there. When we are in hardship, they will vanish, because their connection to us was never genuine. They do not see us as friends but as resources. And when the resource dries up, so too does their loyalty.

I share this experience not with bitterness, but with hope. My hope is that others will recognise this pattern early and protect themselves. Friendship should never be reduced to exploitation. We must learn to identify those who are true companions and those who are merely playing the role of friends for personal benefit. As for me, I am beginning to distance myself from such people. It is not easy, but it is necessary. Life should be filled with relationships that bring growth, support, and happiness, not those that drain us of money, energy, and peace.

So, to anyone reading this: be cautious. Reflect on your friendships. Be generous, yes, but also wise. And if you discover a scammer-type friend in your life, do not be afraid to walk away. You deserve better.

与骗子型朋友相处的经历

我真诚地写下这段文字，分享一段令我深感困扰的经历：与骗子型朋友相处。许多人谈论过在网络上被骗的故事，例如通过电子邮件或电话诈骗，但如果骗子恰好是你认为的朋友呢？这是我的故事，也许也是你的故事。

我有一个朋友，他习惯性地向我借钱。起初，我并没有太在意。毕竟，朋友之间应该互相帮助。当他开口要RM20或RM50时，我乐意答应。有时候，他甚至要求RM100或更多。出于善意，也因为我珍惜这段友情，我把钱借给了他。然而，随着时间的推移，一个念头开始浮现在我脑海：如果我不是唯一一个呢？如果他每个月都向几位朋友开口，那么他得到的钱数将是相当可观的。突然间，我意识到，这并不只是单纯的借钱——而是一种长期的操纵。这正是我所谓的“骗子型朋友”。

骗子型朋友的问题在于，他们的欺骗非常隐蔽。他们不会直接抢你的钱，也不会发出疯狂的威胁。相反，他们利用你的信任、你的善良以及友情的纽带。他们把你对忠诚的重视当成了他们牟利的工具。而且，由于他们通常只要求RM20或RM50这样的小数目，你往往容易觉得“无伤大雅”。然而，当你把它们加在一起时，数字却令人震惊。想象一下，如果一个人每个月向十个朋友要RM50，他就能轻轻松松拿到RM500。这比有些人兼职赚到的还多。而这笔钱，他根本不需要努力工作，只要操纵友情就能得到。

更糟糕的是，这样的朋友根本算不上真正的朋友。如果你遇到困难，他会立刻来帮你吗？我怀疑。他之所以和你做朋友，并不是因为他珍惜你的陪伴，而是因为他看重你的钱包。真正的友情应该建立在信任、尊重和相互支持之上。骗子型朋友却摧毁了这种信任，把关系变成了一场金钱交易。渐渐地，你会开始觉得自己被利用，好像你的慷慨成了理所当然。

我开始认真思考这件事。人生短暂，我们不该让这种只会增加负担的人留在身边。真正的朋友应当给予我们力量，而不是不断消耗我们。如果我们允许骗子型朋友留在生活中，就是允许他们继续欺骗我们。他们让我们的生活更难，而我们却什么都得不到。即使他们只要“区区”RM50或RM100，原则问题依然存在：这是不对的。真正的友情从来不是用金钱来衡量的，而是用真诚。

这种人的一个显著特征就是他们的伪装。在社交媒体上，他们看起来一切安好。他们发出外出、娱乐和奢侈享受的照片。这让我不禁怀疑：我给出去的钱，是否被用来享乐？我们出于真心去帮助他们，但实际上，他们却因为成功欺骗我们而暗自发笑。

最令人难过的是，当我们遭遇不幸时，这类骗子型朋友是不会出现的。当我们陷入困境时，他们会消失，因为他们与我们的关系从来不是真诚的。他们不把我们当作朋友，而只是当作一种“资源”。当这个资源枯竭时，他们的忠诚也随之消失。

我分享这段经历，并不是出于怨恨，而是出于希望。希望别人能及早识破这种模式，保护自己。友情绝不应被降格为一种剥削。我们必须学会分辨谁是真正的朋友，谁只是为了个人利益而假装的朋友。至于我，我正在慢慢与这种人保持距离。这并不容易，但却是必要的。生活应该充满那些带来成长、支持和快乐的关系，而不是那些让我们在金钱、精力和心灵上被掏空的人。

所以，我想对每一位读到这段文字的人说：请谨慎。反思你的友情。要慷慨，但也要明智。如果你发现生活中存在骗子型朋友，不要害怕远离他们。你值得更好的。

MY MESSAGE TO YOU : THE VALUE OF PRIVACY IN MORDEN LIFE

One of the most important lessons I have learned in life is not to reveal everything about myself to others. The more we disclose, the more vulnerable we become to envy, malice, and misinterpretation. Human nature can be unpredictable; people who seem to listen sympathetically may, in fact, harbour resentment or ill-will. As Goffman (1959) argued in his seminal work on self-presentation, individuals manage the information they disclose in order to protect their social identity and preserve dignity.

This does not mean that genuine friendship does not exist. There are indeed honest and good-hearted people who sincerely wish us well. However, discernment is essential. True friendships do not require constant contact; sometimes it is enough to exchange greetings once every two weeks or even once a month. Healthy friendships are not measured by frequency of communication, but by sincerity and trust.

Setting Boundaries in Communication

A useful strategy is to set boundaries when conversations become intrusive. If someone asks too many personal questions, one can redirect the discussion to neutral topics such as football, films, recipes, or health tips. This approach maintains sociability while protecting personal privacy. According to Petronio’s Communication Privacy Management Theory (2002), people draw “privacy boundaries” to regulate the flow of information. When these boundaries are crossed, trust may erode, leading to conflict.

From my own experience, individuals who are overly curious about private matters often prove to be the least trustworthy. Friendships can flourish in shared activities such as playing futsal or going to the gym without requiring deep personal disclosures. Maintaining a balance between openness and discretion is key to sustaining relationships while preserving one’s dignity.

Balancing Positive and Negative Thinking

Life is undeniably difficult without the wisdom to manage oneself. It is important to adopt both positive and negative modes of thinking depending on the situation. Positive thinking allows us to remain hopeful and resilient in the face of adversity. Negative thinking, when applied constructively, helps us to remain cautious and realistic. As Seligman (2011) highlighted in his work on positive psychology, authentic well-being requires not only optimism but also the capacity for critical judgement.

Above all, we must cultivate self-love. People who prioritise their own well-being and self-respect are more likely to succeed in the long run. Self-love is not narcissism but a recognition of personal worth. If we do not value our own privacy and dignity, others will not respect them either. Our life stories are our absolute right; they belong to us alone.

The Dangers of Oversharing in the Digital Age

Letting others speculate is often wiser than offering explanations. Time itself will reveal the answers. The price of self-respect is high, and we should not allow others to distort our stories simply because we volunteered them too freely. This is especially true in the digital age, where information is disseminated at the tap of a finger.

Unlike the past, when messages were delivered by pigeons or tin-can telephones, today’s communication is instant and global. A casual remark shared on social media can spiral into controversy, misrepresentation, or even online harassment. Boyd (2014) has shown how the permanence and visibility of digital content amplify the risks of oversharing. What seems harmless today may have unforeseen consequences tomorrow.

Conclusion

In conclusion, guarding our privacy is not an act of secrecy but of self-preservation. By managing what we share and with whom, we protect our dignity, relationships, and future. Friendships need not be built upon constant disclosures but upon mutual respect and sincerity. In a world where information travels faster than ever, discretion has become an essential virtue.

To protect our independence, mental health, and reputation, we must remember this simple principle: not every story needs to be told, and not every listener deserves to hear it.

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References

• Boyd, D. (2014). It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens. Yale University Press.

• Goffman, E. (1959). The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life. Anchor Books.

• Petronio, S. (2002). Boundaries of Privacy: Dialectics of Disclosure. SUNY Press.

• Seligman, M. E. P. (2011). Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being. Free Press.